The US housing market has softened a bit after years of soaring prices and frantic bidding wars, but there’s little reprieve for buyers trying to crack into the market. First-time buyers made up the smallest share of sales on record last year, at 26%, even as home values started to cool, according to the National Association of Realtors. And rising borrowing costs and still-high prices have pushed housing to the most unaffordable levels in records going back almost four decades.

In 2023, 3.6 million Americans will turn 40 and, if they haven’t already, promptly freak out. This will be the third batch of millennials to hit the milestone. But this group probably won’t rebel like their parents, who in their 40s and 50s bought flashy boats or booked flights to Bali after jumping off the corporate ladder. They aren’t divorcing a spouse (they never had one) or getting a tattoo (they already have them). No, this generation is going to do the midlife crisis differently. They can’t afford to do otherwise.